The number one job of EVERY screen maker is to learn to make an exposure test and not confuse
undercutting or
light scatter with overexposure.
You have diffused fluorescent lamps and haven't done what it takes to compensate for undercutting by enlarging your art yet. Undercutting makes your image smaller by choking it, you need to enlarge it to compensate. The bottle neck in your picture is the perfect choke demo.
You are also using vellum finish paper that also diffuses energy.
Undercutting http://www.ulano.com/FAQ/FAQexposure.htm#Q2 Exposure Exposure FAQ Screen Making Products how to measure exposure
Emulsion is easy: If the emulsion washes out - it wasn't exposed enough. If it doesn't wash out, it was exposed and crosslinked somehow. Your stencil is doing what it should - the sensitizer is crosslinking and holding in the mesh.
Water pressure will FORCE and tear the unexposed stencil. You could also smash open your front door, rather than taking the time to use the key.
Properly exposed, you can soak a stencil for hours without harm (as we do in dip tanks) to dissolve the open areas. The whole point of cross linking the sensitizer is to make the exposed areas water resistant so they won't dissolve and rinse down the drain.
We have about 500 individual posts saying that their stencil washes out and the answer is always the same. Under exposed.